A Slightly Sassy Post - How My Boyfriend Taught Me How To Achieve The Life Of My Dreams


I met Tyler when I was about 7 years old when I moved to Northern Michigan. We grew up in the Cherry Capital of the World where we have a week long National Cherry Festival in the summer. Every year either the Blue Angels or the Thunderbirds come to our air show.

It wasn’t long after elementary school that the entire school system knew that one day, Tyler would be a fighter pilot. Year after year we always saw each other in the VIP section of the air show watching those incredibly talented pilots defy gravity.

Now fast forward to high school. Not only did he get into the Air Force Academy, but also the Naval Academy.  Thus far this may seem like a “let me brag about Tyler” blog post, but stick with me here. There is a MAJOR message to this post that WILL bring you from where you are today, to where you want to be.

Less than 10% of those who apply to the Air Force Academy get accepted. 40% of Academy graduates earn a pilot slot. 15% percent of those who are given a pilot spot earn the potential to fly a fighter plane. 80-90% percent of those who earn the opportunity of having a fighter plane for their career actually earn a fighter plane.

He just got selected to continue his career as an F-16 fighter pilot. Also known as the type of plane the Thunderbirds fly.

In a nutshell, the odds were not even close to working in his favor.

Throughout undergraduate pilot training they throw you into situations before you think you’re ready. They make you do things you don’t feel comfortable doing. They may catch you on your worst day but you have to perform at your best every single time. They make you act like you’re ready even if you’re not.

Sounds pretty damn scary right?

But that’s life. That’s creating the life of your dreams. That’s achieving the health of your dreams. That’s doing ANYTHING worth while in this life.

So how the hell did he do it? He learned to love the hard parts. He thrives in uncomfortable situations. He gives 110% when he may only feel he has 50%.

Anyone who knows Tyler knows that he’s pretty much good at everything that he does. BUT is that why he accomplished this incredible dream of his? Abso-freaking-lutely NOT. He’s good at everything because he has a drive and motivation to accomplish everything he sets his heart to like nobody else I’ve ever met. He works his facking ass off day in and day out. He wakes up at 4a.m. when he could easily sleep another 5 hours completely exhausted. He looks a challenge in the eye with excitement and the courage to put his best foot forward EVERY SINGLE TIME.

Does that mean you’re successful every single time you try? Again, abso-freaking-lutely not.

He may have done his hardest flight in the middle of a rainstorm. He may have been told he has to fly his first solo just hours before doing it. He fails and quickly learns exactly what went wrong so that it never happens again. He makes mistakes, but takes it as the opportunity to get better, to learn, and to come back stronger than ever next time.

If you never make a mistake you’re not working hard enough.

What I’m getting at here is that you have to learn to defy the odds. Does everyone achieve their dream body, health and life? No, quite the opposite. But just because many don’t doesn’t mean you can’t. Who cares if you have 300 pounds to lose, start today and give your best day in and day out. Just because Monday’s best wasn’t as good as Tuesday’s best doesn’t mean that Monday was a fail. Monday was a win because you gave your best.

What do you want?


What will happen in your life if you achieve that?

How bad do you want it?

On a scale of 1-10 it should be a 20.

Decide what you want. Wake up every day deciding to put your best foot forward. Not perfection, but effort.

Never giving up.

Never throwing in the towel.

Learning to rest, not quit.

Practice balance, not extremes.

You are worth it.

Believe you are worth it.

Head down, focus on what you want and make it happen.

ANYTHING you want in this life is yours if you decide to make it yours.

The only thing in your way is you.

Get out of your own damn way.

Photo by: Katie Rae Bode https://katieraebode.com/